"I quit my corporate job to become a sex educator"
"I quit my corporate job to become a sex educator"
Instead of mundane meetings and endless emails, Georgia speaks about sex every day – and she thinks you should, too.
This year, I quit my corporate 9-5 job in the search for ‘meaning’.
After a trip through Southeast Asia, a gross case of workplace slut-shaming and a disillusionment with my vibrator, my search for meaning turned into a journey towards sexual empowerment.
I started studying somatic sexology with a strong desire to change the way we speak about sex.
At first it felt niche, it was radical (for me) and my new found passion was met with lines like “oh, does that mean you’ll be a pro at giving head?!”
Yes, exactly that.
But in a year, I’ve noticed a slight shift. A shift in the way the media reports on sex, a shift in the expression of sexuality, a shift in values and a curiosity to learn more. I’m well aware that I could be wearing a pair of sex-stained-rose-coloured glasses and looking for the best, so it seems only fitting to call on some true sexpert's to answer my burning question: Are more people exploring authentic sexual empowerment and reclaiming their sensuality… or is it just me?
Embodied therapist Deej Juventin, has helped pioneer somatic sex education training in Australia and has noticed dramatic changes over the past 10 years. More people are exploring sexual empowerment – and yearning for it.
Juventin calls it a “sensual momentum…. a survival instinct to get more connected with our bodies and environment, there’s now an inherent human desire to be more embodied.”
“This has flowed from a dramatic rise in practices like yoga, tantra and meditation. The Western world now has scientific evidence of the benefits of Eastern traditions – which encourages people to start engaging their bodies in practices, and they’re noticing the benefits.
“For the first time our species is able to look inside itself on a neurological level, we can now see how practices like yoga, meditation… mindful masturbation… impact our body and how it shapes our brain development and the nervous system.”
“We’re noticing a sexual revolution, more people than ever are looking for a better connection with their sensual self, they want to get back into their bodies because they have felt out of touch for far too long,” Juventin explains.
I speak about sex every day – intrigue flows quite naturally when I’m asked “what do you do?”
Friends and strangers instantly and eagerly open up about their problems, disconnection, dissatisfaction but also about their desire to feel more pleasure, realness and intimacy in sex with themselves and others. To be more connected.
Tantra-inspired facilitator and coach Caitlyn Cook says, the way we’ve been teaching, speaking and doing sex isn’t that fulfilling.
“We’re coming to a time where people want more than the thin, unsatisfying, anxiety-inducing sexuality we’ve been served from porn, limited sex education, conservatism from Christian heritage, and media’s obsession with sexuality.
“We’re becoming more open about sex and sexuality in our culture — whether it’s sexual orientation or gender identity, folks feel more inclined to push into new territories.”
Cook aims to bring mindfulness to sex and teaches her students how sensuality and spirituality can be linked.
“Bringing mindfulness to sexuality means you’re ALIVE. I would love for people to value the sacredness of sexuality, to see it as an avenue of healing, nourishment, spirituality, connection, self-discovery. I’d love for people to experience sexuality as an avenue to becoming more yourself,” she says.
Owning my sensuality has made me feel powerful, and has taught me a lot about my boundaries and what really turns me on. This year I’ve been a part of many sexually embodied practices like orgasmic yoga, mindful masturbation, sound healing, erotic dance. I’m aware that these practices aren’t accessible or desirable to all. For those who are interested in exploring their own sexual empowerment, there are six things you can do:
- Be curious and listen to your body.
- Focus your attention through your senses.
- Observe thoughts without being attached to them.
- Bring attention to how and where you feel sexual.
- Be patient and kind to your body and your ‘sensual journey’.
- Practice! What you practice grows stronger, by practicing our embodied understanding of sex, pleasure and consent, our sensual self also grows.
Every single day for the past year, I have spoken with people about their desires to learn, experience and feel more. I have noticed an increasing demand for ways to access sensual empowerment. Don’t get me wrong – I believe we have a long way to go and I’m only at the beginning of my journey, but I’m honoured to be a part of this momentum and see sensuality become as normal, acceptable and beneficial as spirituality.
Georgia Grace is a Sex Educator and Intimacy Coach (in training).
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